How to Encourage Your Teen with Desiree Panlilio – Episode 90
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Desiree Panlilio is all about helping parents encourage their teens with their goals. As a former nurse, medical manager, and spousal mentor at the U.S. Navy’s Command Leadership School, Desiree honed the skills needed for her future role as a mother and community leader. After receiving a master’s in Human Services Counseling with a focus in life coaching, she founded Encouraging Teens to help teens to discover where they are, who they want to be, and how they’d like their future to look.
Key Takeaways from Desiree:
- What Desiree is most curious about, outside of her work: She loves making cupcakes
- How Desiree is making an impact with her work and the inspiration behind why she started: Being a military family, her family moved around a lot. Her kids didn’t necessarily feel encouraged to pursue their goals through the constant transitions. Desiree read lots of books on how to help her kids feel more empowered in their communication skills. This led her to help other families improve their teen’s communication skills.
- How has her work has shifted during the pandemic: She went from doing mostly “in-person” coaching to conducting all of her coaching sessions virtually. This is allowed her to provide more virtual group workshops to help teens in that capacity.
- Common challenges parents face when communicating with their teams: Desiree says communication is felt in the smallest moments making sure that you are asking your team what they want and listening with curiosity versus telling them what you think they should to do. Desiree shares a story about her own experience with telling her teen “what to do” and she learned a valuable lesson that shifter the way she communicates with everyone.
- Current projects Desiree is excited about: Adding a parenting communication workshop to her list of services.
- Desiree‘s advice for when parents are feeling stuck in their communication with their teens: When parents first change their communication style, their teens will question the parent’s motives. Desiree encourages parents to be patient with the process. She tells a powerful story about how a mom and daughter’s relationship “turned around” when the mom used some of the communication prompts Desiree mentioned, inside this episode.
- Book recommendations: Steven Covey’s “7 Habits of Highly Effective People” and Sean Covey’s “7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens”
- Connect with Desiree: Stay connected with Desiree’s work by downloading this free gift – Three ways to communicate with your teen
