Today’s pep talk is for the Chick who’s been feeling a little unsupported lately… and might be making it harder for people to actually show up for her.
Welcome back to Being Relatable. This is part of my Hype Yourself Up Pep Talk Series, where I’m helping you show up with more courage, clarity, and connection in all areas of your life.
Here’s what I see all the time with strong, capable women…You’re not asking for too much. You’re barely asking at all.
- You tell people you’re “fine.”
- You keep it vague.
- You give the watered-down version of what you’re carrying.
- And then you feel hurt when no one shows up the way you hoped.
But people can’t support what they can’t see. And most people would rather do nothing than guess wrong. On the surface, vagueness feels mature. Underneath, it’s a sneaky way of staying alone in it.
So, here’s the one move you can do today to get more support: Stop hinting. Start naming.
A hint is: “I’m stressed.” Naming it looks like: “Can you check in with me tomorrow afternoon? I could use a steady voice.”
A hint is: “We should get together sometime.” Naming it looks like: “Can we lock in a coffee this week? I miss you.”
A hint is: “This is a lot.” Naming it looks like: “Can I talk for five minutes? I don’t need advice, I just need you to listen.”
Question to ponder: Where have you been vague about what you need… and then quietly disappointed when people didn’t magically know?
Tiny action: Pick one person you trust. Send one clear sentence today:
- “Do you have ten minutes? I need to say something out loud.”
- “Can you check in with me on Friday? I could use a steady voice.”
- “Can I borrow your brain on this decision? I’m stuck.”
- “I don’t need a solution — I just need you close.”
Remember: You’re not being “too much.” You’re being clear. And clarity is kindness to the people who want to show up for you.
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